As a parent, you deal with a LOT of feelings on a daily basis. Right? And sometimes, it can all get to be just a little bit much! When you’ve had what seems like hours of multiple people crying at you, the temptation to make it stop is high!
We’ve all said it, or at least thought it. ‘Stop crying! Just stop!’
Or maybe you heard it as a child?
“Don’t be silly”
“Shh, everyone is looking at you”
“Stop that noise, right now!”
“Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about!”
But what if I told you that every time you dismiss or minimise your child’s feelings, you actually make your job harder. You very rarely succeed at making them stop anyway, and it’s more likely that they will need more support from you in the future rather than less. If you don’t hear the message they are trying to send you, the messenger just gets louder and louder until you do. Children are looking for empathy and understanding. If they don’t get it, they’ll keep trying.